Co-parenting can be challenging but it is likely worth the effort

When you are going through a divorce and you have children with your ex, you will need to decide what model of parenting you are going to use. One of these options is co-parenting. This has become more common in recent years, which is likely a good thing since it usually means the child has more consistency than what is possible with some other models.

Co-parenting means that you and your ex will work closely to raise the children. Major rules and the consequences for breaking those will remain the same at both homes. Even though the marriage didn’t last, both parents will make decisions for the children as a team instead of having a different way of doing things with each parent.

Another way that this model is unique is that you and your ex will likely spend time together with the child. Some co-parents celebrate birthdays and holidays together. Events like school trips, plays and other important points in the child’s life are probably going to be a joint affair.

Because of the circumstances that are present in these cases, there needs to be clear rules and boundaries set. These can include always remaining respectful of each other. If there are significant others or family members who join in on events, they must be held to the same standards.

The goal of co-parenting is to find ways to help the child thrive in the current situation. You should make sure that you are putting the kids first so that this will come a little easier. Compromise is something that you will have to work toward in these cases, so be prepared to negotiate on many matters.

Source: Our Family Wizard, “What Is Co-Parenting?,” accessed June 01, 2018