Things aren't always easy when parents divorce. The situation can be challenging for both the kids and the adults. Fortunately, there are methods that you can use to try to make things easier for them and yourself. One of these is to make sure that you aren't trying to rush through things too fast. This is a big transition that will take time to work through. You have to be prepared to help them along the way.
When you first split from your spouse, one of the top priorities that you have must be setting the plans for the kids. You need to be ready to work with your ex to draft the parenting plan. This is often it done through mediation, which is faster and gives you more control. If this isn't possible, you may have to rely on the court to make decisions for you. The negative to this is that you might not have much of a say in what happens.
We know that this is a hard thing for you to go through. Try to address what is best for the kids since they need to be foremost in all decisions. It might help you if you can focus on the aspects of custody are most important to you. This might be that you want to have the children attend church, but you might not have a preference about extracurricular activities. Your ex might insist that they play a specific sport, so you concede to the sports and your ex concedes to church.
The sooner we work out the parenting plan, the sooner your children can start to enjoy consistency and stability that comes with this. We know that your ultimate goal is ensuring that they are thriving despite the divorce. We will help you work toward that.