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Work out child custody terms quickly during a divorce

It can be difficult for the adults in a divorce to cope with the changes that are happening. It might be even more challenging for the children to handle it. If you are bidding adieu to your marriage, you need to think about what is going to happen with the children. This might be a contentious issue since you and your ex might both want the kids to live with you. We are here to help you work through these matters so that your children are able to enjoy stability as soon as possible.

Many parents choose to set a temporary agreement for the kids, so they can get used to the schedule. A long-term agreement is handled during the divorce proceedings. This long-term one can be the same as the short-term one, but you can also change the necessary points if you find there are aspects that aren't working.

Help your children transition between 2 homes

Children often have difficulties adjusting to life after their parents' divorce. One of the hardest things they have to do is try to learn how to live in two homes. In the past, they were secure in one home. With the divorce, they have to adjust to a new place with one parent. It is up to the parents to help the kids make this transition as easy as possible.

Some children have trouble with the new arrangements because they feel like they shouldn't be happier in one home than the other. They might worry that neither parent wants to hear about the fun times they had with the other parent. Let your children know that you enjoy finding out about the good memories they had at the other house. This might help them to feel more secure in their situation.

Divorce terms are very personal matters

When you go through a divorce, your entire life changes. This can lead to a host of issues for you. Many things that you experience in divorce aren't under your control, but others are. When you focus on the things that you can control, you might find that you feel less stressed during this transition. You might wonder which aspects of the split on which you should focus. We can help you learn about various options that might benefit you.

As you work through the matters related to the end of your marriage, you need to focus on yourself. Don't worry about how decisions might impact your ex or care about what your family members and friends might think. Even if you value the opinions of those individuals, you still need to focus on what you think is going to be best for you and your children.

Addressing childhood changes that come with divorce

Divorce is a period of adjustment for everyone involved. This includes the children because they are dealing with a major upheaval, too. They might not have the mental capabilities to deal with the changes, so it is up to the parents to help them to thrive amid the welter of emotions they are facing.

One of the primary ways that you can help the children is by setting up clear expectations for the child custody situation and include those in the parenting plan. Knowing the specifics about how everything is going to be handled can reduce the stress for everyone involved.

Parenting plans can change as the children's needs change

Each child custody case is different because no two children and no two circumstances are exactly the same. One thing that parents have to remember is that they need to set the terms of the agreement based on what their children need now. This can be a challenge because we often like to plan ahead. We know that you might think that you want the parenting plan to last as long as possible, but that might not be what's best for your children.

As your children grow up, their needs change. What you come up with for a parenting plan for a newborn isn't going to be appropriate for a teenager. This is one of the reasons why there is the option for custody modifications. You can have the custody agreement adjusted to fit your child's needs, but this doesn't have to happen every few months.

Know when and how to seek a child support modification

Child support orders are based on the circumstances in the situation at the time the order is created. It is possible and even likely that things might change in the future. These changes can lead to a modification of the order if they are significant enough. We know that you might want to ensure that your children's financial needs are taken care of despite any future changes. We will help you determine if the support order needs to be modified.

There are only very specific circumstances that qualify for a modification. A significant change in the payer's income might qualify if it is due to something that isn't that person's fault, such as a layoff or demotion. For parents who need to seek a modification, filing quickly is important since modifications aren't retroactive.

4 things to consider when making vacation plans with kids

Now is the time that parents are going to start planning summer vacations, but there are special considerations for people who are traveling with children. When that trip involves children who are the subject of a custody agreement, there are even more things to think about.

Whether you are taking a trip for a few days or longer, you must ensure that you are doing things in the correct manner. The planning might take a bit more time, but you will likely find that you can enjoy the vacation knowing that you are abiding by the custody agreement.

Children should be encouraged to interact with extended family

Just because you and your ex divorced doesn't mean that your children should have to miss out on important family gatherings on either side. Instead, you and your ex should both encourage the kids to have meaningful relationships with their extended family members.

We know that this might not be easy, especially if you don't get along with your ex's family, but you have to remember that they are still your kids' relatives. With few exceptions, the kids will benefit from getting to know their extended family.

End-of-marriage issues shouldn't overshadow child custody matters

The emotions that come with a divorce can leave you feeling resentful toward your spouse. While this might not be an issue if you don't have children, you will soon find that you have to deal with these feelings if you have a child custody agreement. Letting these end-of-marriage issues become a burden on the parenting relationship can be detrimental to your children.

There should be a level of respect between co-parents that prevents either one from badmouthing the other. Unfortunately, this might not be the case because some adults simply aren't able to put the past behind them and move forward with having a positive relationship.

4 tips to help make divorce less contentious

The thought of a divorce is something that some people can't fathom because they assume that the entire process has to be contentious. This isn't the case. It is often possible for adults to work out a settlement agreement instead of having to go through a battle. Of course, there are times when a court battle is the only way that you can make the divorce happen.

When you know that your marriage is ending, you can make up your mind to do your part to make the process as smooth as possible. You don't have to forget about your rights or give your ex everything that they want.

  • Keep good records: Not only do you need to know about the financial matters that have to be handled in the divorce, you also need to keep records. Anything that you and your ex discuss should be written down so you can refer to it later. This might be a verbal agreement about parenting time or a way that property can be divided.
  • Find your new normal: Your new normal isn't going to be anything like what you lived when you were married. You have to figure out what works for you and what doesn't so that you can settle in to your new life. It is important that you are as comfortable as possible with what's going on. You should set goals that empower you to live the life you want.
  • Don't take things too fast: You might want to be friends with your ex, but make sure you don't take this too fast. You also need to ensure that you aren't trying to jump into a new relationship too quickly. Instead, take time to improve yourself so that you know you can stand on your own. Additionally, take the time to focus on your kids now so that you can build up the relationship you want with them.
  • Consider options carefully: Throughout the divorce, you are going to have tough choices to make. This includes those about custody and property division. Don't focus only on what will make your life easier now. Also think about what can help you in the future.
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