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5 stay-at-home parent divorce tips

Your career ended a year after you got married. That was the year your first child was born. You and your spouse both took time off, and it slowly dawned on you that one of you should just do this full time. Why leave the child with a sitter all the time when you could be there yourself?

Since your spouse earned more money than you did, you volunteered to be the stay-at-home parent. You loved it. When another child came into the family two years later, you really settled into this new role. For 10 years, you spent time with your kids. When they went to school, you took care of the house, the lawn, and all of the cooking and cleaning. You decided never to get a traditional job again.

A military divorce has unique considerations

Life in the military isn't easy. When you have a spouse, the stresses of military life on both of you might end up creating a rift in the marriage that can't be corrected. When this happens, divorce might be imminent. If that's the case with your marriage, there are a few things that are different in a military divorce than in a civilian divorce.

One of the differences is where you file the petition for divorce. You might have to file it in the state where you are stationed, but you might also be able to file in the state where you have your permanent residence. Once you determine which is the better option for you, make sure you think about these other considerations:

Co-parenting shouldn't be filled with stress

Your job as a parent isn't ever easy. When you have to deal with your ex as a co-parent, it might be even more troublesome. You should make sure that you are doing everything in your power to make things as easy as possible for you and the children. This might be difficult to do during this trying time, but you must put forth the effort.

One thing that can make your life much easier is to remember that you and your ex are both the child's parents and you are on the same level. Trying to have too big of an ego can make the situations that come up even more difficult to deal with. If you find that you are thinking too highly of yourself, take the time to relax and remember that your ex is still your child's parent, so respect is a must.

Get your vacation plans moving forward now

As the summer months come up, you might find yourself getting antsy. Summer is a time for fun memories and vacations. If you have a child custody agreement for your children, you will need to review that document carefully to find out if there are any restrictions to your summer vacation.

We realize that you might want to travel out of the Montgomery County area with your children. Some custody agreements have limits for how far out of the area you can go. Make sure that you find out if this applies. You also need to look at the conditions of travel. Do you need to let the court know the vacation plans? Do you have to let your ex know the itinerary? Finding these out now can save you trouble down the road.

Try to keep your positivity when you are co-parenting

When you make a bucket list for your life, there is a good chance that working closely with your ex isn't going to make it onto that list. This is because dealing with an ex isn't fun. When you have a child with that ex, you don't really have a choice but to work with him or her.

As you co-parent your children, there are going to be times when you get angry, frustrated or sad. It can be hard to remain positive when this happens, but finding a way to hold on to your positivity can greatly benefit you and your children.

Use social media responsibly during divorce

If you are going through a divorce, your family law attorney may have cautioned you about your use of social media during the proceedings. Listen to him or her, as according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 81 percent of their membership have garnered useful evidence against their clients' spouses from the spouses' social media posts.

Even the president's son hasn't escaped the perils of social media posts, as some of his controversial tweets have allegedly been partially to blame for Donald Trump, Jr.'s pending divorce from wife Vanessa.

Including alimony in your divorce isn't automatic

Alimony is a part of a divorce that is often misunderstood. Some people think that this is automatic in all divorces, but this is far from the truth. Instead, alimony is reserved for some very specific circumstances. If you are facing a divorce and think that you might need to seek alimony, you need to learn about what Maryland laws say about this matter.

There are many different things that you might have to look at if you are considering seeking alimony. One of these is that if you and your ex can agree on alimony payments, those payments can be entered into the divorce settlement. Another is that if there is a prenuptial agreement with an alimony agreement, the court will consider that.

Study: Woman's promotion can raise risk of divorce

A recently-released white paper from two Swedish academics found that marriages where a woman was not working or earning less than their spouse were more likely to get divorced if the woman's career suddenly took off.

The study followed detailed register data in Sweden that followed women before and after promotions. The divorce rates among women who won elections, such as those who became parliamentarians and mayors, as well as chief executive officers (CEOs) were 7 percent less likely to remain married than women who ran for office but didn't win. Demographic information, such as education level and age, were also considered.

Making the decision to divorce isn't necessarily easy

The decision to divorce isn't made easily. Instead, there is usually a lot of thought that goes into such a major change. When you are determining if this is the right choice for your situation, you need to take several variables into account.

It isn't always clear if you will be better off as a single person. Asking yourself these questions might help you to make your choice:

Parenting doesn't end when you divorce the other parent

Taking care of your children after divorce is something that parents must make a point to do. Many parents  forget that even though they are getting a divorce, they will have to continue to deal with the ex because of the children.

Child custody matters will put you working closely with your ex, but you must remember that everything you do is for the betterment of your children. You have to put them first. When you do this, you might find that everything is a bit easier to deal with.

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