Your children look to their parents as a source of stability. When you are going through a divorce, this stability is shaken. You have to try to find ways that you can help them adjust to the new way of life in a positive and appropriate manner. These skills can help them now and well into adulthood.
Trying to work out a parenting plan as soon as possible is always a good idea. While you are working out the terms, your children are in limbo. Once the child custody order is set, you can explain it to your children and start to give them the stability they need. We can help you work toward this point.
There might be times when you have to deviate from the plan. You and your ex should be willing to work together in these cases. Throughout them, you must think about the needs of the kids and what is best for them.
One example of working out deviations together might happen during the holidays. If you or your ex has family coming in from out of town, plans should be made so that children can see them. This might mean they go with your ex on your day or vice versa. Working with an impartial third party might help you come up with a compromise if you and your ex can’t do it on your own.
As you are working out the parenting plan and making decisions afterward, you must ensure that you are remaining respectful to each other. Having a good attitude and the children’s best interests at heart can make any situation run more smoothly.