One of the biggest mistakes that you can make when you are going through a divorce is trying to compare yourself to someone else. Every divorce is a different situation that must be treated accordingly. Before you start to think about the negative divorce stories you have heard, remember that you and your ex have a big part in how the future goes.
If you choose to work as a team, your divorce is likely going to go a lot smoother. This is especially important if you have children because you do have years of parenting ahead with your ex. If things start off rocky and contentious, this might be how the remainder of those years go.
Thinking about your future might help you keep your focus on what is important. Don’t think about what you are losing during the divorce. Try to remember what you are gaining. Your divorce can be a positive point in your life because you are able to set up a new life how you want it.
As you are working through the divorce, remember to think about how each decision you make might impact your life. Some decisions will be easy to make. Others might be more complex. Never be afraid to say you need time to consider something when you are negotiating.
You should try to find a good support system for coping with the end of your marriage. You may need to turn to people who aren’t friends with your ex just because you need to ensure that what you say will remain confidential. You can also bounce ideas for your new life off of them, which might help you to cope with the divorce better.