A divorce turns your entire life upside down. Even if you wanted the split to happen, you will still likely have to deal with the ups and downs that come with the situation. The major life change is one of the reasons it is such a challenge. This triggers emotions that are usually considered negative.
One of the most difficult things for people who are going through a divorce to accept is that they are going to mourn the end of the union even if they were the one who filed. You aren’t just ending an arrangement that’s on paper. You’re also walking away from a person who’s provided support for you during the union.
Not having someone there who can talk about daily events and major things that happen in your life can be hard. You might not actually be grieving the loss of the marriage, but more the lack of companionship that you have now.
Trying to find a good support system now is one option you have to help with this. You do need to be careful about who you open up to. If you and your ex had shared friends, things might get awkward if you vent to them. You need to ensure that the people you speak to are going to keep things confidential instead of telling your ex what you said.
Make sure that you take care of yourself throughout the divorce and after. Self-care involves eating healthy foods, exercising, getting enough sleep and finding activities you enjoy. Rebuilding relationships that fell by the wayside during your marriage might also benefit you.
As you work through the legal process, think about what’s truly in your best interests. Your goal should be walking away from the marriage on the best footing you can.