Child custody matters are one of the most challenging things that adults who divorce will have to work through. It is easy to make decisions about yourself but when you have to think about what the other parent will think about specific matters, things can be much more complex.
It is imperative that you always try to do what is best for the children. There are several mistakes that newly single parents might make, so you should learn from the experiences of past divorcees and try to avoid those if at all possible.
One of the most important things to remember is that what you allow now sets the precedent for the future. As tempting as it might be to let things slide right now, doing this can lead you to a precarious position soon when you try to enforce the rules. Remember, children need consistency and stability, so setting the rules and expecting them to be followed can benefit them now.
Another point to remember is that arguing with your co-parent over trivial matters is just as waste of time and energy. Things like critiquing your ex over missing clothing items can make the situation difficult. Unless the item is a favorite stuffed animal, it might be best to see if you can find it but don’t harp on it.
Remaining respectful from the start of the divorce throughout the child’s life can help your child to adjust to the new situation. It can also help you to enjoy a more peaceful co-parenting relationship since you set a good example for them and are trying to work with your ex to make life easier for everyone.